Reflections on ‘Unsung Hero’: Embracing Failure and Finding Strength in Family

Kate and I had the pleasure of attending Unsung Hero last week, and it’s definitely a must-see. However, I must warn you, especially as a father and husband, that it will bring out emotions you’ll need to process.

The story centers around the Strong Bone family, weaving together the lives of Rebecca St. James and For King and Country in a truly inspiring and heartfelt way. We witness the family’s journey from riches to rags as their world crumbles around them. David Strong Bone grapples with watching his family struggle while facing repeated setbacks in the music industry, feeling as though he’s been shut out.

I deeply resonated with David’s story because much of my business career has been marked by failure. I struggled to keep a printing business afloat during the “Great Recession,” only to end up in bankruptcy court. I then built a successful Janitorial Business spanning five states with 100 employees, only to lose it all during the Great Resignation. Failure has seemed to follow me everywhere, and watching this film brought those feelings to the surface, leaving me in tears throughout and prompting two days of reflection.

Over the years, I’ve wrestled with questions of self-worth—whether I’ll ever be good enough as a father, husband, or business owner. I’ve felt the weight of letting my kids down and wondered if my wife regrets marrying me. As a foster parent, the pain of watching children we hoped to adopt leave without explanation and the uncertainty of meeting my grandson can be overwhelming. These experiences can make you feel like nothing you do will ever be sufficient.

Whether you’re a foster parent or a full-time dad, it’s likely you’ve felt this way at times. You’re not alone. The key is to keep going despite failures. As the movie “Meet the Robinsons” beautifully illustrates, celebrating failure and persevering through it can lead to success.

As a foster parent, it’s crucial to remember that you’re not the problem; often, you’re the scapegoat. Our role is to understand and meet the needs of these strangers thrust into our lives, even if it means bearing unfair blame. It’s a sacrifice that embodies having a servant’s heart.

Regarding careers, I’ve had businesses thrive and then fade, which has left me questioning if I’ll ever create something lasting. Yet, as I’ve connected with others my age, I’ve discovered this feeling is common. We’re not alone. Seeking out relationships with those who have walked similar paths provides strength and perspective.

David Strong Bone’s story teaches us to lean into family during adversity. As I prepare for a big fundraiser for Kids Cove next week, I’m anxious about its outcome but holding onto hope. Whether you’re a father, husband, employee, or business owner, don’t give up. You’ve got this.